Thursday, 4 February 2010
What If Your Partner Needs More Space
What should you do if your partner tells you they need "more space" in the relationship?
Should you whine about it?
No.
Should you try to convince him/her how much you love him/her?
No.
Should you get jealous because he/she wants to spend more time with his/her friends?
No.
What you SHOULD do is to pull back from the relationship and focus on YOUR life...even MORE than he/she does.
Why? Because when a man/woman needs more "space", it means you're being too needy and you're suffocating him/her. It means his/her attraction for you is DROPPING and if you keep on pushing him/her, he/she is going to dump you.
At this point, if you force him/her to "work things out", you will only end up pushing him/her AWAY since you already have one foot in the negative zone.
So instead of pushing him/her away from you, you should PULL BACK and focus on YOUR life.
Focus on improving your life, working towards your goals, and creating a stronger self-image.
Because chances are, if he/she needs more space, you probably haven't been spending a lot of time with your own life outside your relationship.
By focusing too much on a relationship, you risk losing out what life has to an offer. As a result, you will become even MORE needy overtime as you lose the grip on the rest of the world. One day, you will wake up and find that you "cannot live without him/her", and ironically, that's usually when a man/woman will dump you.
A healthy relationship requires SPACE for both parties to grow. So give him/her some space, and give YOURSELF some space too.
As crazy as it may sound to you if you're a needy person right now, it may actually be one of the best things you can do for your relationship!
Should you whine about it?
No.
Should you try to convince him/her how much you love him/her?
No.
Should you get jealous because he/she wants to spend more time with his/her friends?
No.
What you SHOULD do is to pull back from the relationship and focus on YOUR life...even MORE than he/she does.
Why? Because when a man/woman needs more "space", it means you're being too needy and you're suffocating him/her. It means his/her attraction for you is DROPPING and if you keep on pushing him/her, he/she is going to dump you.
At this point, if you force him/her to "work things out", you will only end up pushing him/her AWAY since you already have one foot in the negative zone.
So instead of pushing him/her away from you, you should PULL BACK and focus on YOUR life.
Focus on improving your life, working towards your goals, and creating a stronger self-image.
Because chances are, if he/she needs more space, you probably haven't been spending a lot of time with your own life outside your relationship.
By focusing too much on a relationship, you risk losing out what life has to an offer. As a result, you will become even MORE needy overtime as you lose the grip on the rest of the world. One day, you will wake up and find that you "cannot live without him/her", and ironically, that's usually when a man/woman will dump you.
A healthy relationship requires SPACE for both parties to grow. So give him/her some space, and give YOURSELF some space too.
As crazy as it may sound to you if you're a needy person right now, it may actually be one of the best things you can do for your relationship!
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