Showing posts with label good relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label good relationship. Show all posts
Monday, 14 December 2009
Relationship - We Attract What We Are Ready For
We attract what we are ready for. What that really means is that the more time and effort we put into being the kind of person we want to be the healthier our relationships become. When I coach people to take action and expand their sense of themselves they begin to attract new people into their lives and their current relationships become more rewarding.
Recently I coached a woman who had had a number of disappointing relationships and much conflict with her co-workers. She worked hard at strengthening her sense of self by taking positive action steps. As her confidence increased she began to expect more from the people around her. No longer would she put up with emotional abuse and manipulation. By learning better relationship skills she indeed began attracting positive people into her life and was able to resolve conflicts with co-workers.
In time she began meeting people who appreciated her and she she let go of people who were trying to pull her back. She found that she had strengths that she had not even known she had.
This is what happens when one seriously starts working on upgrading oneself. Your sense of who you are changes. You form an invisible boundary around yourself to which you are the gatekeeper. It puts you in charge of whom you let in and who stays out. The result is that your self confidence grows and you feel in charge of your own life.
By working on self-mastery you indeed attract what you are ready for. We form relationships based on emotional compatibility. It follows that as we increase our emotional fitness we will attract someone who is emotionally in a similar place.
And now I invite you to visit http://www.growwithkristina.com to claim your free recharge your life/renew your spirit report.
Kristina von Rosenvinge teaches people how to develop their self-growth and enhance their relationships in order to be leaders in both their personal and business lives.
Recently I coached a woman who had had a number of disappointing relationships and much conflict with her co-workers. She worked hard at strengthening her sense of self by taking positive action steps. As her confidence increased she began to expect more from the people around her. No longer would she put up with emotional abuse and manipulation. By learning better relationship skills she indeed began attracting positive people into her life and was able to resolve conflicts with co-workers.
In time she began meeting people who appreciated her and she she let go of people who were trying to pull her back. She found that she had strengths that she had not even known she had.
This is what happens when one seriously starts working on upgrading oneself. Your sense of who you are changes. You form an invisible boundary around yourself to which you are the gatekeeper. It puts you in charge of whom you let in and who stays out. The result is that your self confidence grows and you feel in charge of your own life.
By working on self-mastery you indeed attract what you are ready for. We form relationships based on emotional compatibility. It follows that as we increase our emotional fitness we will attract someone who is emotionally in a similar place.
And now I invite you to visit http://www.growwithkristina.com to claim your free recharge your life/renew your spirit report.
Kristina von Rosenvinge teaches people how to develop their self-growth and enhance their relationships in order to be leaders in both their personal and business lives.
Saturday, 28 November 2009
When Is The Right Time To Be With Someone?
The most important decision that affects the happiness of a person is finding the right partner for life and that too at the right time. The level of perception of a person obviously influences his/her choice of partner. It is vital to take the proper step at the proper time and not hesitate while making such an important decision. One must keep in mind the fact that time is short.
The subsequent points listed help to find out for certain whether one is ready for a relationship or not.
1. You must have monetary security.
2. You must be perceptive enough to understand the significant crossroads that life may present and be wise, experienced and confident enough to tackle them.
3. Your emotion and reason must be in agreement when you decide it is time for you to share your private space with someone. Research has shown that maximum number of divorces occur due to indifference of one or both the partners towards one another. Being interested in your partner is vital for a perfect balance in the relationship.
4. The fact that you are ready to take on the complete responsibility of another person and that you are ready to rely on this same person for support is a pointer to the fact that you are ready for a relationship.
5. Your consciousness about the desire for a family and family planning policy regarding this basic urge shows that you are ready for a relationship.
6. The appropriate age for men is between 25-35 years. For women, the most apt age is in the range of 20-28 years.
7. There is also a physical need for being with someone. But if you have not felt the desire to be with anyone at all then there must be some emotional issue.
8. One of the most important facet of the decision in choosing a partner is the abundance of option that one has in the matter. You have to be aware of all the people you find interesting. This awareness of your interests naturally makes it easy to avoid potential debacle.
Friends, family, neighbors and the amazing sights and sounds of the great wide world full of possibilities await one if only one makes the effort to appreciate. But one only notices all the variety and beauty when one is in love. Only a soul mate who can share your experience makes everything worthwhile.
It is only the perfect partner who can get rid of the despondency of loneliness and lead you to a life of joy and happiness.
The subsequent points listed help to find out for certain whether one is ready for a relationship or not.
1. You must have monetary security.
2. You must be perceptive enough to understand the significant crossroads that life may present and be wise, experienced and confident enough to tackle them.
3. Your emotion and reason must be in agreement when you decide it is time for you to share your private space with someone. Research has shown that maximum number of divorces occur due to indifference of one or both the partners towards one another. Being interested in your partner is vital for a perfect balance in the relationship.
4. The fact that you are ready to take on the complete responsibility of another person and that you are ready to rely on this same person for support is a pointer to the fact that you are ready for a relationship.
5. Your consciousness about the desire for a family and family planning policy regarding this basic urge shows that you are ready for a relationship.
6. The appropriate age for men is between 25-35 years. For women, the most apt age is in the range of 20-28 years.
7. There is also a physical need for being with someone. But if you have not felt the desire to be with anyone at all then there must be some emotional issue.
8. One of the most important facet of the decision in choosing a partner is the abundance of option that one has in the matter. You have to be aware of all the people you find interesting. This awareness of your interests naturally makes it easy to avoid potential debacle.
Friends, family, neighbors and the amazing sights and sounds of the great wide world full of possibilities await one if only one makes the effort to appreciate. But one only notices all the variety and beauty when one is in love. Only a soul mate who can share your experience makes everything worthwhile.
It is only the perfect partner who can get rid of the despondency of loneliness and lead you to a life of joy and happiness.
Wednesday, 18 November 2009
Bad Reasons to Get into a Relationship
Do you feel that all of your relationships are perpetually going down hill? Even though it is not your fault? You should stop to think whether you are getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons may well entail a lot of heart ache and potential future disaster.
A common mistake is getting into a relationship because you are lonely. Many women hang on to their boyfriends out of a sheer fear of loneliness, even if their boyfriends don’t treat them well, are abusive, immature and disrespectful. A lot of women think that a bad boyfriend is better than no boyfriend at all.
This is however a route to potential future disaster and is best avoided. If you can see yourself approaching someone just to have someone to enjoy the weekend with, then reproach yourself, for this is a big mistake. Instead, get together with your single friends and spend time.
A lot of people get into a relationship out of peer pressure. As more and more of your friends find boyfriends and they get deeper into their relationships, and some even get engaged, you may often feel sad or depressed as to why you are not able to experience the pleasure they do. You may often feel that there is something wrong with you if you are still single.
There are even a few women who have an intense need to be like their friends so they often get into a relationship with the first person they see. However, there is nothing wrong with being single. There are many people who are single and happy, so find your self a hobby or something to engage yourself with.
Another common reason for people to rush into relationships is that they feel that they are missing something, and often they think that it is a male presence. However as they soon find out, a boyfriend rarely solves the problem. The empty space that they used to feel usually still remains.
The presence of these empty feelings inside them may damage their relationship later on down the line. When they enter a relationship, the man will sooner or later detect these insecurities and he will not be likely to take the relationship further.
As you can see, getting into relationships for the wrong reasons may damage your relationships later, causing many problems and a lot of heart ache. When you do get into a relationship, do so not because you need to but because you want to. Getting into a relationship should never be done under any sort of compulsion.
A common mistake is getting into a relationship because you are lonely. Many women hang on to their boyfriends out of a sheer fear of loneliness, even if their boyfriends don’t treat them well, are abusive, immature and disrespectful. A lot of women think that a bad boyfriend is better than no boyfriend at all.
This is however a route to potential future disaster and is best avoided. If you can see yourself approaching someone just to have someone to enjoy the weekend with, then reproach yourself, for this is a big mistake. Instead, get together with your single friends and spend time.
A lot of people get into a relationship out of peer pressure. As more and more of your friends find boyfriends and they get deeper into their relationships, and some even get engaged, you may often feel sad or depressed as to why you are not able to experience the pleasure they do. You may often feel that there is something wrong with you if you are still single.
There are even a few women who have an intense need to be like their friends so they often get into a relationship with the first person they see. However, there is nothing wrong with being single. There are many people who are single and happy, so find your self a hobby or something to engage yourself with.
Another common reason for people to rush into relationships is that they feel that they are missing something, and often they think that it is a male presence. However as they soon find out, a boyfriend rarely solves the problem. The empty space that they used to feel usually still remains.
The presence of these empty feelings inside them may damage their relationship later on down the line. When they enter a relationship, the man will sooner or later detect these insecurities and he will not be likely to take the relationship further.
As you can see, getting into relationships for the wrong reasons may damage your relationships later, causing many problems and a lot of heart ache. When you do get into a relationship, do so not because you need to but because you want to. Getting into a relationship should never be done under any sort of compulsion.
Monday, 16 November 2009
Key Tips To Starting A Relationship
You may be awesome in something. If you think you are smart then make sure that you show it off. If you think you have the ability to make some one laugh then go ahead make her laugh.In case you are good in sport, and then demonstrate it.
Let people know that you are different. Widen your horizon. If you feel that you do not have a prospect then think again and look into another direction. If you like sports then look for people with similar liking and hang out with them. Look fro someone with whom you would find it easy to talk. A successful relationship starts with communication. If you fail to do so you may lose the relationship.
First step that you should take is to communicate effectively with your partner. First start by simple talking and the make a friend out of that special person. Girls are usually circumspect while jumping into new commitments. Make sure that you find a reason to talk. Make sure that both of you are willing to exchange conversations.
Don’t make a third person a medium. Be yourself and express your feelings directly. Make sure that you don’t lie at the beginning of your relationship as this may be disastrous. You would be heart broken when you would find yourself lonely.
Convey your feeling. Make sure that the right kind of emotion is transferred. Flirting is a healthy social and playful activity but it may be reciprocated only in some cases. If you get the right kind of emotion then it may help you to build a successful relationship. Don’t be sad if it doesn’t pay back.
Take things slowly. Don’t show any kind of desperation. This may spoil it for you. When you take things easy you may be open to lots of surprises. You may be surprised that your special person may ask you out for a date!
Make sure you don’t get the wrong vibe. Once you know that a formidable base is made you can go beyond. Make sure that you continue having a normal routine. Don’t make your life revolve around that special some one. The person you may start loving may want you and not a clone of themselves. So it is important that you remain yourself truly as this would be highly appreciated.
Let people know that you are different. Widen your horizon. If you feel that you do not have a prospect then think again and look into another direction. If you like sports then look for people with similar liking and hang out with them. Look fro someone with whom you would find it easy to talk. A successful relationship starts with communication. If you fail to do so you may lose the relationship.
First step that you should take is to communicate effectively with your partner. First start by simple talking and the make a friend out of that special person. Girls are usually circumspect while jumping into new commitments. Make sure that you find a reason to talk. Make sure that both of you are willing to exchange conversations.
Don’t make a third person a medium. Be yourself and express your feelings directly. Make sure that you don’t lie at the beginning of your relationship as this may be disastrous. You would be heart broken when you would find yourself lonely.
Convey your feeling. Make sure that the right kind of emotion is transferred. Flirting is a healthy social and playful activity but it may be reciprocated only in some cases. If you get the right kind of emotion then it may help you to build a successful relationship. Don’t be sad if it doesn’t pay back.
Take things slowly. Don’t show any kind of desperation. This may spoil it for you. When you take things easy you may be open to lots of surprises. You may be surprised that your special person may ask you out for a date!
Make sure you don’t get the wrong vibe. Once you know that a formidable base is made you can go beyond. Make sure that you continue having a normal routine. Don’t make your life revolve around that special some one. The person you may start loving may want you and not a clone of themselves. So it is important that you remain yourself truly as this would be highly appreciated.
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