What If My Partner Wants To See Other People?

What does your partner mean when he/she says you should both see other people?

As a Smart Dater, it should only mean one thing: his/her attraction for you has dropped so much that the relationship is about to end.

Your partner can not just wake up one day and want to start seeing other people. Usually, when he/she wants to see other men/women outside an existing relationship, it's because she wants to meet other men/women without feeling guilty OR without facing complete rejection if a man/woman rejects him/her. (He/She will still have a guy at home to go home to.)

In other words, your partner only wants to see other guys/ladies because he/she is not attracted to you anymore, but at the same time, he/she wants to keep you around as a "backup" in case his/her new partner turns out to be a creep. In fact, he/she may even see you as a "tool" to get new partner jealous.

So what do you do when your partner wants to "see other people"?

Well, honestly there's not much you can do. If you disagree, he/she will probably dump you right there since the attraction is so low anyway.

Your best bet is to end the relationship right there OR to agree to see other people too. But either way, you want to actually start seeing other people and let him/her know ALL about it. Show him/her that you ARE capable of attracting other men/women and that you are NOT going to just sit there and be his/her "backup plan."

If he/she freaks out and begs for you to come back, good. Otherwise, just move on. He/She's not worth your time!