What To Do With A Jealous Partner

I am often asked, "What should I do if my partner is jealous?"

Well...it depends on HOW jealous he/she is.

If he/she is a normal man/woman who gets jealous every once in awhile, then you don't have too much to worry about. In fact, it's good that he/she DOES gets a bit jealous every now and then.

It shows he/she still sees you as a stud.

In that case, you can just "defuse" his/her jealousy by teasing him/her playfully. For example, if your girlfriend calls a woman a bitch after the woman talks to you at a party, just say something like, "Nah. She's not a bitch. She just has good taste. And so do you." Then give her a kiss.

Problem solved.

But if your partner is one of those men/women with a "chronic" jealousy problem, then you're in trouble.

Never forget that a person's jealousy usually comes from insecurity. This is why EVERYONE gets jealous every once in awhile...because nobody is perfect and we all do have our own insecurities.

So if your partner is VERY jealous ALL THE TIME, it's a sign that he/she is very insecure...

And guess what?

Insecurity means low self-esteem, and low self-esteem means BAD CHARACTER.

FIND ANOTHER MAN/WOMAN!

I have said this a thousand times and I will say it again:
Remember that you cannot change a partner's character. You have to accept him/her for who he/she is BEFORE you enter the relationship. If you try to play therapist, his/her attraction for you is going to drop very fast and you'll most likely end up as his/her "friend".

In other words, you CANNOT do anything to "help" him/her become less jealous. You cannot cure a man's/woman's jealousy or insecurity. It's something that he/she has to do on his/her own.

The other alternative, of course, is to learn to "tolerate" your partner's jealousy. But let me warn you now: as time goes on, it will get harder and harder, and you'll probably be in for a very rough ride.

You have been warned!