Tuesday, 19 January 2010
Undeniable Tips To Improving Your Love Relationship
Having a successful relationships and parenting children seems to be the two most difficult jobs to do and yet with no formal training in either. Well, it look like most people believe that we are born with the inherent ability to do these. Yet, with this the divorce rate is on the rise daily.
Partners get along well when times are good; and quarrel with, ignoring, or leaving each other when things are bad or tough. Most partners believe seeking help with relationships demean them or it is a defeat to their relationship or who they are as a person. Or possibly, they believe that relationships should be something you take care of yourself. Or maybe, some believe that they know more than those helping couples out there. After all, what is to know about keeping relationships together?
Well, we must understand that there is a lot to learn when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately, the only training most people receive is the learning from the adults who live our house and the media. It is discovered that this is the training that most partners depend upon, this is also true with our parents and grandparent. There is so much more to know about relationships than that.
In some ways, this training seem to help in one way but not at all times. Disagreements are natural in any relationships. It is totally impossible for two people to live together without some of their values, ideals, opinions or day-to-da activities coming into conflict with each other. The question now is how the partners manages this conflict.
Many things are to be considered when speaking of partners challenges and areas for growth and development. Firstly, compatibility. It is a key for a successful, healthy relationship. To be attracted to someone is not enough to show that you are compatible. You must KNOW him/her in person, likes, dislikes, ideals, beliefs, behaviors, habits, culture, and much more.Try to know virtually everything about him/her. Then you can now determine whether you are compatible or not.
A second consideration is simply that there are major differences in how men are in relationships compared to how women are. Women generally don't understand men because the men don't act like women and similarly, men don't understand women because they don't act like men. And since a woman has never been a man and a man has never been a woman, how does each learn about these important differences? John Gray researched and wrote about these issues in his book, Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus. But I would say that the majority of people in relationships don't take the time to learn about these gender differences. It is easier to point a finger and blame the other person for his or her irrational behavior.
As mentioned earlier, a third area of growth is learning how to manage conflict. There are time proven methods for resolving conflict that we don't learn in school or from a book. There are ways to actually hear each other in relationships. By placing the relationship FIRST in importance, these methods can be implemented by couples to greatly improve their satisfaction.
There is so much to learn about satisfying relationships that your parents never showed you. Please don't become one of the statistics of divorce or perhaps worse, stay in a miserable relationship to honor your marriage vows while having so many regrets about your life as the time ticks away.
Take charge and take control of your life. Learn some new ways to improve the relationship you are already in or to prepare yourself for being a better, improved partner for the next person in your life.
Partners get along well when times are good; and quarrel with, ignoring, or leaving each other when things are bad or tough. Most partners believe seeking help with relationships demean them or it is a defeat to their relationship or who they are as a person. Or possibly, they believe that relationships should be something you take care of yourself. Or maybe, some believe that they know more than those helping couples out there. After all, what is to know about keeping relationships together?
Well, we must understand that there is a lot to learn when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately, the only training most people receive is the learning from the adults who live our house and the media. It is discovered that this is the training that most partners depend upon, this is also true with our parents and grandparent. There is so much more to know about relationships than that.
In some ways, this training seem to help in one way but not at all times. Disagreements are natural in any relationships. It is totally impossible for two people to live together without some of their values, ideals, opinions or day-to-da activities coming into conflict with each other. The question now is how the partners manages this conflict.
Many things are to be considered when speaking of partners challenges and areas for growth and development. Firstly, compatibility. It is a key for a successful, healthy relationship. To be attracted to someone is not enough to show that you are compatible. You must KNOW him/her in person, likes, dislikes, ideals, beliefs, behaviors, habits, culture, and much more.Try to know virtually everything about him/her. Then you can now determine whether you are compatible or not.
A second consideration is simply that there are major differences in how men are in relationships compared to how women are. Women generally don't understand men because the men don't act like women and similarly, men don't understand women because they don't act like men. And since a woman has never been a man and a man has never been a woman, how does each learn about these important differences? John Gray researched and wrote about these issues in his book, Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus. But I would say that the majority of people in relationships don't take the time to learn about these gender differences. It is easier to point a finger and blame the other person for his or her irrational behavior.
As mentioned earlier, a third area of growth is learning how to manage conflict. There are time proven methods for resolving conflict that we don't learn in school or from a book. There are ways to actually hear each other in relationships. By placing the relationship FIRST in importance, these methods can be implemented by couples to greatly improve their satisfaction.
There is so much to learn about satisfying relationships that your parents never showed you. Please don't become one of the statistics of divorce or perhaps worse, stay in a miserable relationship to honor your marriage vows while having so many regrets about your life as the time ticks away.
Take charge and take control of your life. Learn some new ways to improve the relationship you are already in or to prepare yourself for being a better, improved partner for the next person in your life.
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