What To Do - Before a First Date

A semi-detached frame of mind
What is semi-detached?  You want to be available for conversation, but you are unattached to the outcome.  It helps if you view your first date with a simple sense of adventure.  This is your single life and you’re going to enjoy it, so let go of all projections, fears, and doubts.  Maybe you’re about to meet a new romantic partner; maybe the person will be a new friend; and maybe this person won’t be a match for either of those identities, but relax and let it be what it will be.  At the very least, this person is giving you his or her time, so sit back and allow yourself to learn something new from this encounter.

A stash of cash
Always take enough money with you to pay your own way.  Even if the person invited you and the assumption is that he (or she) is paying, you want to be free of any sense of obligation or dependency.  You don’t know this person yet; you don’t know what to expect; you don’t want to feel embarrassed if your date wants you to pay for half of the costs

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