Tuesday, 1 December 2009
The Compatibility Factor
It is usually taken for granted for too long. You have perhaps also overlooked its foreseeable powers and always forgot to read the signs on the road. That road you were planning to travel along with your partner has again become foggy and doesn’t show any sign of clearance. And everything you have experienced so far is a farce and a mistake.
It is human nature to forget emotional beatings from past relationships, put aside the anxieties one has been through and erase the feeling of dysfunction and inadequacy as one moves from one relationship to the other wishing a better result and more stability. It’s understandable you want to start fresh from ground zero. But are you the fly which enters the trap of Venus flycatcher thinking it can escape from it unharmed?
You must be crazy to think that way.
Learn from your past and take the necessary precaution before taking the first step. No body gets away with the ups and downs of a new relationship. You have experienced it before but every time you look for a partner you put down your guards and land up in the same place. Grow up; haven’t you got your share of drama queens? Uncaring guys using you like a ball? Codependent individuals who are unable to sustain them and drag you down along with their life?
How about hooking up with someone who really cares about you? Can you visualize spending time with someone who respects you and takes part in your daily activities? You would love to live with someone who blindly believes in your vision of the future.
It does take time. No one can give you a hundred percent guarantee that you will find someone with cent percent compatibility. We must first understand that none of us will reach that perfection ourselves where we can sit and expect some one that perfect. Let’s face it; a perfect soul mate doesn’t come in a Cracker Jack box.
Compatibility issues are common to a lot of relationships. Too many people take the plunge without realizing that their relationship is on a blink. A lot of them forget to communicate with each other and collectively stay patient to make it work. Compatibility issues often deal with arguments about simple things.
Attitude problem and negative emotions form an impenetrable wall of silence. You must have the desire to stay or walk out. Your desire of staying together is most important.
It is human nature to forget emotional beatings from past relationships, put aside the anxieties one has been through and erase the feeling of dysfunction and inadequacy as one moves from one relationship to the other wishing a better result and more stability. It’s understandable you want to start fresh from ground zero. But are you the fly which enters the trap of Venus flycatcher thinking it can escape from it unharmed?
You must be crazy to think that way.
Learn from your past and take the necessary precaution before taking the first step. No body gets away with the ups and downs of a new relationship. You have experienced it before but every time you look for a partner you put down your guards and land up in the same place. Grow up; haven’t you got your share of drama queens? Uncaring guys using you like a ball? Codependent individuals who are unable to sustain them and drag you down along with their life?
How about hooking up with someone who really cares about you? Can you visualize spending time with someone who respects you and takes part in your daily activities? You would love to live with someone who blindly believes in your vision of the future.
It does take time. No one can give you a hundred percent guarantee that you will find someone with cent percent compatibility. We must first understand that none of us will reach that perfection ourselves where we can sit and expect some one that perfect. Let’s face it; a perfect soul mate doesn’t come in a Cracker Jack box.
Compatibility issues are common to a lot of relationships. Too many people take the plunge without realizing that their relationship is on a blink. A lot of them forget to communicate with each other and collectively stay patient to make it work. Compatibility issues often deal with arguments about simple things.
Attitude problem and negative emotions form an impenetrable wall of silence. You must have the desire to stay or walk out. Your desire of staying together is most important.
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