Monday 29 March 2010
Mistake #8 – Cheating On Your Partner…Or Letting Your Partner Cheat On You
Infidelity is a very common reason for breakups.
Once you’ve committed to a relationship, you should think twice before you have an affair with that cutie-pie at work.
If you feel tempted to cheat, then remind yourself that you’ve already in a relationship. And if you still feel like you “must” go after the new guy or girl, then ask yourself WHY you are still in a relationship with your current partner in the first place. (Maybe you should breakup with your partner!)
And if your partner is the one who cheated, then you should follow my two-strike rule.
In my experience as a dating coach, there are some rare occasions when a person does “repent”, reform, and never cheat again.
But unfortunately, most of the time, it will happen again, again, and again!
It’s sad, but true.
Remember what causes in the first place according to the Smart Dating Course: Low attraction and a lack of character.
Everybody is prone to cheating given the right amount of temptation. It’s just that some men and women have a higher “threshold for cheating” than others due to their good character.
For example, for some men, it may take just a “slut” at a party to get him to have a quickie in the bathroom behind his girlfriend’s back. With other men, it may take a supermodel on a faraway island. And of course, there are some guys who will never, never cheat. Ever.
Similarly, some women may never cheat, while with some other women it may take only a couple of drinks before they are ready to drop their pants for the first guy who hits on them.
It all depends on your partner’s character and how much they care about you.
And this is why a person who has cheated once before will often cheat again.
If you want to forgive your partner for cheating, then MAKE SURE you follow my two-strike rule.
If your partner cheats on you once, you can forgive them once.
But if they EVER cheat on you again…then it’s time to cut them lose. Just remember: you have already made a mistake the FIRST time by taking them back and letting them cheat on you again…
Making a mistake once is acceptable.
Making a mistake twice is also acceptable…
Consider it as a good lesson…
But making a mistake three times…
IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE AT ALL!
Once you’ve committed to a relationship, you should think twice before you have an affair with that cutie-pie at work.
If you feel tempted to cheat, then remind yourself that you’ve already in a relationship. And if you still feel like you “must” go after the new guy or girl, then ask yourself WHY you are still in a relationship with your current partner in the first place. (Maybe you should breakup with your partner!)
And if your partner is the one who cheated, then you should follow my two-strike rule.
In my experience as a dating coach, there are some rare occasions when a person does “repent”, reform, and never cheat again.
But unfortunately, most of the time, it will happen again, again, and again!
It’s sad, but true.
Remember what causes in the first place according to the Smart Dating Course: Low attraction and a lack of character.
Everybody is prone to cheating given the right amount of temptation. It’s just that some men and women have a higher “threshold for cheating” than others due to their good character.
For example, for some men, it may take just a “slut” at a party to get him to have a quickie in the bathroom behind his girlfriend’s back. With other men, it may take a supermodel on a faraway island. And of course, there are some guys who will never, never cheat. Ever.
Similarly, some women may never cheat, while with some other women it may take only a couple of drinks before they are ready to drop their pants for the first guy who hits on them.
It all depends on your partner’s character and how much they care about you.
And this is why a person who has cheated once before will often cheat again.
If you want to forgive your partner for cheating, then MAKE SURE you follow my two-strike rule.
If your partner cheats on you once, you can forgive them once.
But if they EVER cheat on you again…then it’s time to cut them lose. Just remember: you have already made a mistake the FIRST time by taking them back and letting them cheat on you again…
Making a mistake once is acceptable.
Making a mistake twice is also acceptable…
Consider it as a good lesson…
But making a mistake three times…
IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE AT ALL!
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