Monday 28 February 2011
Saturday 12 June 2010
How to Rate your Dinner Date
Attitude
In this type of setting, you have a window to peer through as this person orders their food. Is he or she kind to the wait staff? Does he ask you what you would like or does he tell the waiter what to bring without consulting you? Does he start eating his food before you are served? If someone has been raised with a role model of good manners, he may automatically appear to do all the right things. But if you listen carefully, you may hear the overtones of anything from caring to condescension. These are important qualities to identify if you’re thinking of spending more time with this person.
Focus
What is your date focused on? Is it the wine, the decor, or the people in the restaurant? Is she obsessed with how she looks, how other people look, or how you look? When you talk, does she listen and ask questions
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In this type of setting, you have a window to peer through as this person orders their food. Is he or she kind to the wait staff? Does he ask you what you would like or does he tell the waiter what to bring without consulting you? Does he start eating his food before you are served? If someone has been raised with a role model of good manners, he may automatically appear to do all the right things. But if you listen carefully, you may hear the overtones of anything from caring to condescension. These are important qualities to identify if you’re thinking of spending more time with this person.
Focus
What is your date focused on? Is it the wine, the decor, or the people in the restaurant? Is she obsessed with how she looks, how other people look, or how you look? When you talk, does she listen and ask questions
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Friday 11 June 2010
What To Do - Before a First Date
A semi-detached frame of mind
What is semi-detached? You want to be available for conversation, but you are unattached to the outcome. It helps if you view your first date with a simple sense of adventure. This is your single life and you’re going to enjoy it, so let go of all projections, fears, and doubts. Maybe you’re about to meet a new romantic partner; maybe the person will be a new friend; and maybe this person won’t be a match for either of those identities, but relax and let it be what it will be. At the very least, this person is giving you his or her time, so sit back and allow yourself to learn something new from this encounter.
A stash of cash
Always take enough money with you to pay your own way. Even if the person invited you and the assumption is that he (or she) is paying, you want to be free of any sense of obligation or dependency. You don’t know this person yet; you don’t know what to expect; you don’t want to feel embarrassed if your date wants you to pay for half of the costs
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What is semi-detached? You want to be available for conversation, but you are unattached to the outcome. It helps if you view your first date with a simple sense of adventure. This is your single life and you’re going to enjoy it, so let go of all projections, fears, and doubts. Maybe you’re about to meet a new romantic partner; maybe the person will be a new friend; and maybe this person won’t be a match for either of those identities, but relax and let it be what it will be. At the very least, this person is giving you his or her time, so sit back and allow yourself to learn something new from this encounter.
A stash of cash
Always take enough money with you to pay your own way. Even if the person invited you and the assumption is that he (or she) is paying, you want to be free of any sense of obligation or dependency. You don’t know this person yet; you don’t know what to expect; you don’t want to feel embarrassed if your date wants you to pay for half of the costs
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