Monday 29 March 2010
Mistake #7 - Not Having a Life Outside Your Relationship
If you don’t have much of a life outside your relationship, I have some bad news for you:
I can guarantee that sooner or later you will not have a relationship either.
A healthy relationship requires space. Without individual lives, it won’t have enough space to grow.
If your partner has a life and you don’t, eventually your partner will leave you for someone who does have a life.
If you have a life and your partner doesn’t, eventually you will feel resentment because your partner will be constantly trying to get you to stay in the house too.
If neither of you have a life, then you’ll both be stuck in the house with each other. Tension will raise and eventually you’ll fight over everything and anything.
It may seem fun at the beginning because you’re getting an emotional payoff. But eventually it will kill the relationship.
I have seen it happen…many times.
So…
What are your dreams? What are your ambitions? Who are your friends? What is your purpose? Make sure you don’t lose sight of these things while you’re in a relationship!
Or you’re going to find yourself single (and still be without a life) sooner or later!
I can guarantee that sooner or later you will not have a relationship either.
A healthy relationship requires space. Without individual lives, it won’t have enough space to grow.
If your partner has a life and you don’t, eventually your partner will leave you for someone who does have a life.
If you have a life and your partner doesn’t, eventually you will feel resentment because your partner will be constantly trying to get you to stay in the house too.
If neither of you have a life, then you’ll both be stuck in the house with each other. Tension will raise and eventually you’ll fight over everything and anything.
It may seem fun at the beginning because you’re getting an emotional payoff. But eventually it will kill the relationship.
I have seen it happen…many times.
So…
What are your dreams? What are your ambitions? Who are your friends? What is your purpose? Make sure you don’t lose sight of these things while you’re in a relationship!
Or you’re going to find yourself single (and still be without a life) sooner or later!
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